I think it was a combination of the excitement for my (now cancelled) Belarus trip, a little bit of cabin fever, and the awakening of the streets that imbued me with motivation which kept me focused and keen across June. Intermittent days of hot sunshine and overall settled weather combined to bring people outdoors. I made the best of the material at hand. Byker Hight Street would have many experienced daygamers, spoilt rotten by the wonders of Europe (and even Nick Krauser was open-mouthed at my choice of stomping ground for the early part of the month) crying into their pint – such was the veritable lack of choice and numbers (believe me, Glen, Matt and I have cried into our post-session pints on more than one occasion in the past). But this has always been one of the key reasons I say learning about cold approach in a secondary city like Newcastle is incredible for developing a strong frame, resilience and tenacity. This is not London. You do not have the plethora of nationalities, tourists and daydreamers longing for adventure. You have instead a relatively homogeneous British populace drunk and corrupted by online-dating, direct Instagram approaches as well as declining ability to interact in real, spoken terms. Cynical, masculine traits are commonplace in such British women. But it is unfair to say that there are not a range of nationalities to discover in Newcastle. There are, and it makes the experience all the more satisfying when you do. So, to the stats:

Sets: 55

Numbers: 25

Instagram: 5

Idate: 1

Dates: 6

Lays: 4

Near Miss: 1

LAY REPORTS

1. Threesome SDL: See here: https://broodingseadaygamewordpresscom.wordpress.com/2020/06/05/when-its-not-all-that/.
2. SDL https://broodingseadaygamewordpresscom.wordpress.com/2020/06/25/failed-dates-and-sdls-at-dusk/
3. Czech Date 1 https://broodingseadaygamewordpresscom.wordpress.com/2020/06/30/seductive-czech-blonde/

DATES

1. I took a cute black girl on date, back to mine, kissing but she would not progress. Ended up in a BLM debate on Instagram so the lead died. As it happened, she saw me walking on an instant date with Redundancy Girl – which sort of made me feel good.
2. Half-Kuwaiti/half-Canadian PhD girl. Escalated and had further comms but it fizzed out. She was recently single and not wanting anything. Typical case of a career-driven attractive 30 year old with a cat and a small apartment.
3. The cute 20 year old firework I saw the day after SDL Report (number 2, above). I have no question that I could have had a fourth with this girl. I was spanking her on cliff tops and she who recorded videos as she wanked me off on the way home. We are still in touch but I am sure there is a few other men who are, too.
4. Instant date with a cute (former) recruitment consultant who had just been made redundant minutes before I opened her. She burst into tears but 10 minutes later was laughing. We went for coffee and she came back to meet me again for a drink, but nowhere was open. She then blocked me later that night.

LEAD MANAGEMENT

It is worth touching on some of these numbers and entering into current status of play:

1. I did a set with a cute 18 year old and communication was easy enough and responsive but getting her on a date has proved hard. Perhaps fishing for attention. On Saturday night she displayed some of the vile, council-house culture traits so prevalent in British women, so I deleted her number.
2. Did a set with a cute Swedish girl and things went well, but she removed me from Instagram following date request.
3. Number closed a leggy redhead. Strong communication and even bumped into her on two separate occasions and we had good conversation. I pushed the lead hard to meet in the end and she broke off communication saying I was only after one thing.
4. I did a very sexual set with a cute girl and felt it was a great body of work. She responded to a few messages and then it fizzled out. I even opened her housemate 2 weeks later on the same street.
5. Opened a cute 18 year old dancer. Communication was good but she has started seeing someone.
6. Number closed a gorgeous hot half-Thai girl waiting for her friend (see what comes next). 10 minutes later I bump into the half-Chinese girl I did outside Aldi) who was attending the BLM protests (guess which side) that day in Newcastle. We spoke and flirted, then the Thai girl joined us both in set. Small world huh. Glen watched as the former walked towards us but couldn’t help. Moments later we walked along the street to meet Krauser and I practically had tears in my eyes.
7. Number closed a half-Japanese girl who then told me she was engaged.
8. Had a strong set with an Irish girl who was communicating well in text, but then dropped-off.
9. Gorgeous Gibraltar girl – was seeing someone but we exchanged texts.
10. The half-Italian American. Very strong investment all week and then she said ‘we had nothing in common’. Probably true, I don’t have much in common with unemployed theatre studies grads with 2 useless degrees.
11. Hot Taiwan girl – in declining communication.
12. Hot blonde Irish girl. I need to upload the audio. She didn’t reply to feeler.
13. Chinese Law Student. Very strong hooks but no reply.
14. Fishnet British girl. In communication.
15. Long-legged Southern posh girl. In strong comms and I cancelled a date last night.
16. Swedish girl – wants to meet tomorrow.
17. Med graduate – after a great set she just dropped off after a day of flirty comms.

LEARNING

I have absolutely zero approach anxiety at the moment.

I really enjoy the interactions and feel that my ‘stop’ is seamless and comfortable. It is designed to be as socially calibrated as possible, to not shock/startle the girl, to avoid drawing attention or make her feel that other people will notice in her proximity. None of this glakey running around a girl in a wide-arc with palms-down like the nonsense Torero espouses.

In-set I rely more on iterations of spiked attraction and intent, buttressed by several minutes value and comfort. I use non-verbals and maintain strong eye contact. I never use direct touch (obvious given the current pandemic) unless the girl leads this by offering a hand-shake (only happened twice I think).

I feel good in my Game. Able to weave a conversation together and my close is powerful and delivered as a statement.

I am not afraid to message the girl within an hour if I feel there is some scope to a date that day.

On dates I am bold. I control the frame, and I escalate fast.

I am experimenting with my approach to lead/opportunity management. This is obviously a fine-art as my instinct is to sexualise, push for early-dates and early-sex. But I am also attempting to shift my strategic focus to developing a broad portfolio of opportunities where the focus shifts towards a slower-burn pipeline management approach. Obviously, the two approaches are at odds but I have had some success managing leads and converting these into opportunities over the longer-term so I need to craft this art especially when text interactions fizzle out on the girls side. In these instances the timing is obviously not good for the girl so it is a case of giving her the space and trying to regenerate a spark down the line. Nothing new in this idea, obviously.