Winter turns to Spring in Krakow and Warsaw

I’ve done solid daygame across January and February; there has been no off-season, and no rest for the wicked. To date, I’ve spent around 4 weeks braving the inclement weather and temperature, ‘putting in the work’ in bleak, near-freezing conditions, with all too-frequent pints (to get out of the cold) followed by a piss (have to buy a pint to take a piss) leading to the Pint/Piss Loops. So, the improving weather over the last couple of trips has come as a well-deserved contrast to the challenges of winter. Pint/Piss Loops still featuring. 

Approaching the end of the first quarter of 2022 – yes – we are ¼ of the way through the year, it can be summarised as eventful. Coaching, dating, shagging, drinking and exploring new streets and places. Building memories along the experience graph charting the upward (or downward) transition from squalor to LTR. Each will view this trajectory differently, some naively, some just downright fucking stupidly as they have no direction, aim or strategy in mind. 

Earlier this month I coached in Krakow before heading over to Warsaw for 4 days to see another student. Both nice lads who took on board some of the most important daygame lessons I teach. Much of the earlier work focussed on inner-game chats in-between sets (point 1 below) and technical teaching (point 2 below) followed by the art (point 3). We barely touched on point 3, such is the importance crawling before you can walk. 

1. Most of your effort and interactions go nowhere. Even when you get fucking good – 70% of your effort leads to no relationship, no sex, no contacts, nothing. So, get used to this and build it into your soul.
2. The ability to stop a girl correctly, in the most simple and natural way as possible is a major skill in of itself. No girl likes to be freaked out in public via some grandiose wheel/Yad retardery. They also don’t particularly like being stared/leered at by members of the public. Authentic, subtle low-energy stops are the foundation of my successful sets and I always endeavour to wait for the opportune moment to open – even if this introduces some risk (e.g., boarding a tram or bus). I have tested this, and the more natural you are the the more comfortable the girl is in-set – the essence of my technical teaching.
3. Draw out emotions and translate value.

Some absolute pearler leads were identified, courted and dropped off. I slept with 5 new girls from daygame aged 18, 19, 21, 22 and 26. I dated virgins, I dated Ukrainian models, I slept with a girl in a relationship who came straight to my hotel. I met some stunners and some stunners dropped off despite good rapport. It has been a terrible couple of months for this. But the abattoir floor contains skin, mud, bone, innards and sometimes meat. Keep grabbing your shovel and scrape as much up of the floor as you possibly can. Pack it into the sausage machine – keep forcing it in – get as much of this rot in as you can – then turn the handle – and hope.

My daygame comprises of the following attributes:

Zero anxiety.

Expectation the girl will like me.

Excellent non-verbal skill (I cannot state how important this is).

The ability to handle nerves and show no fear.

Have fun. 

Be cheeky.

Convey attraction.

Develop trust.

Develop intrigue.

Close like she’s paying for something. 

I have honed this in the winter trenches. My resilience has been developed on the challenging streets of the north-east, my methods and styles tested in multiple countries, both under the baking sun and when the sky is grey, and the scarf and gloves don’t help.

Warsaw

I had arranged to meet met up with Roy in front of the Palace of Culture. I spotted him first, in set. We were dressed identically (I will not disclose our near-identical uniforms of choice to protect our image rights). I watched his interaction for a few minutes, noting the ease at which he riffed and the smile on the girl’s face. I always pay close attention to a bloke’s body language and particularly the use of his hands in-set. It may sound strange, but they are one of the key indicators of competent, assured daygame.

I caught up with him and we shook hands in front of the Palace on a warm spring afternoon.

“Fancy some food and a pint” I suggested

“Let’s do five sets before we have a beer’” he replied. 

Oh, that most fragile of foundations on which many promises are built, only to collapse under the sheer weight of a future-projected pint.

We made it to three sets before the allure of Hoppiness called and we entered the world of burgers, beers, vodka shots and birds. The night was a blur, but it was fucking good fun. I met a cute 17-year-old Ukrainian who I dated the next night. I fell in love hard with her tits and arse and big brown eyes and sexy, cat-like demure face, but she age-rejected me 2 days later when she had the classic, I can’t believe what we were doing moment. 

The next few days were spent hitting the bricks and putting in the work; getting a few leads, drinking more than a few pints and reflecting on it all over breakfast in the spring sunshine. 

Was great to get out and about with a guy of his calibre and who is just a good bloke all round. We took turns on sets like gentlemen and balanced the art of the two-set on a few occasions. But cherry wine. But pints. It was 3.5 days that came and went in an instant and my body is still shattered from the drinking. Oh, and a gay bar will always trump an SDL with an Argentinian 3 with an admittedly decent arse.

The Pause

A daygame tactic that for me is very much an advanced trait is The Pause. It is common (and indeed good practise) for a beginner to fill that opening 60 seconds with content and waffle – verbally bamboozle and dump a load of fun observations and statements into the mix. This serves as much as stress-reliever for you, as it does to convince the girl you’re just a harmless creep spouting thrice-rinsed you look like an angry balloon wafting down the street type observations and creative nonsense. Don’t get me wrong, I like that balloon opener I just gave you, but I also like to sometimes immediately pull back on my open. Look the girl in the eye, semi-smile and wait a few seconds as the unspoken message is understood by the girl on an evolutionary level, and then begin. It can take balls of steel, as you need to both convey non-verbally what this is about, but to become comfortable with the thing we call anxiety (as she looks at you like a retarded mute) and then begin the verbal element of the set. 

It is not an exact science; it is teachable, but like rock climbing, you won’t grasp the physical and emotional stress as well as the enjoyment until you are connected to that rock face. 

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