A deeper meaning to daygame

This is a shortened version of a chapter from my book that I hope to release in October 2023.

While looking through my Instagram and WhatsApp conversations I am struck with the fact that of the girls I have met, dated and slept with through daygame, there are, as of September 2022, 23 that I speak to. These are women whose company I enjoy, and who seem to like me. Although we live vastly different lives, separated by a generation, distance and lifestyle, it strikes me that we still have some form of strong connection. What characterises all of these ‘relationships’ is just how comfortable and fun things still are. I can be me – say what I feel and be direct – convey my character and soul to these women. Although we don’t speak all of the time, when we do speak, the girls show a complete commitment to the conversation, and to the memory of our experience. I am sure that the vast majority of these women I can see again (and I actually do see a substantial number of them from time to time).

Zooming out on this illustrates the importance of your capacity to build and form relationships with women in the figurative as oppose to literal sense. To keep the fires burning; to wrap them in the fantasy they yearn for, to develop the capacity to hold your value and retain a sense of admiration, respect and desire in the woman. Of course, this is a very complex topic and rests in no small part on your ability to be interesting, desirable and to have created a strong bedrock over the initial interaction and subsequent dates.

There is an immense pleasure in this for me, knowing that these women hold me in a strong regard. This is not some ego exercise, nor is it a shallow notch-count ego-building strategy – it is the opposite. It is the reward in knowing that over longer-timeframes these methods work; that I am a man these women consider worthy of keeping in their lives, despite the daily enemy at their gates in terms of other men jostling for their attention both on and offline.

I have always said that Game – as term – is an unsatisfactory descriptor. On the most basic and crude level (and I argue this is is not even worthy of inclusion) it is where young men in their 20s meet girls of their own age cohort and comparable SMV bracket. This is fast-food Game (at best). It is Game 1.0. It is baby steps. As I have gained more experience and met a range of practitioners in this community, I can conclude with some certainty that the ability to form and grow relationships with multiple women (on varying levels of complexity and involvement) is where the real skill is required – and where the real reward resides.

BroodingSea, September 2022.