The Same Day Lay

This short blog will brush over some recent SDLs and show you what to look out for while in set, on the instant date, through early messaging etc. It will show you how if you strip away a lot of the nonsense and simply follow the path of least resistance, the lays can follow quickly. 

I will summarise the lays very briefly and then discuss some themes that linked each of these together in terms of the girl’s behaviour and how I managed the date. 

• Ukranian girl: an 18-year-old I met in Poland. On the instant date, I took her to a quiet bar and we sat alone away from other people. We sat down together, shoulder to shoulder. Within 20 minutes I had kissed her. The conversation was lightly sexual at first. I made my intentions clear and was very direct about what I wanted to do with her. I explored the idea of meeting her later that night for drinks and she was 50/50. We eventually met and went for two drinks. I was physically escalating with lots of touch. At one stage she had her legs draped across me as I massaged her thighs. We walked back to my hotel area and explored a secret garden, where I fucked her under the midnight moon. 
• Polish girl: opened her at a tram stop and met later that evening. She suggested meeting in town but I suggested that she meet me at my hotel bar and she agreed. She was assertive, and testy and tried to imply I was only after one thing. I didn’t deny this and made it clear about what I felt about her sexually. I led us to my hotel room because I said I wanted to show her the view but the subtext had been clear on the date. 
• Polish girl: opened her as she was on the way to the gym. Incidentally, it was a short set but the texting was invested. We agreed to meet that evening and she asked me, “What do you hope to get out of this”. I replied that “You. I want you to come home with me” while simultaneously placing my hand on the bare skin of her waist and kissing her. It was a simple process to join the dots between her interest and my decision-making. We ended the drinks and I told her we would return to my place. 
• Swedish model: instant date to lay. We met in a park at 7 pm on a February evening when it was -20. She suggested a drink near her hotel bar, but I said my hotel bar was better. We went for a drink and I built some comfort over 30 minutes before I said we should go up to my room to appreciate the view. I kissed her as we both stood at the window taking off my clothes as I did so. 
• Turkish girl: instant date to lay. We met and had a brief walk, before going for a drink and a swim. The plan was to meet later that night because she wanted to go home and shower. I told her she could shower at mine. She left the bathroom wearing my bathrobe. I took a shower and asked her to rub after sun on my shoulders. It was straightforward from there. 
• British girl: met her in the early afternoon and she agreed to meet me later that evening. She was out with her family for drinks and I told her we should meet later and she agreed. I picked her up and suggested we go for one drink, before a bottle of wine at my place. She agreed. Went for one drink and played a game of pool and then drove home and started watching a movie. She curled into me and I kissed her, and sex came quickly after that. 

Key Takeaways

In all cases, I text girls I open within one or two hours of meeting them. This may run counter to much PUA orthodoxy (all the well-worn tropes of appearing too keen, my results are grounded in experience rather than theory. My results speak for themselves. 

I lay out my intent early and with clarity while on the instant date or the delayed date.

If short sets lead to a good investment in text, I push hard for the date that day and escalate hard from the get-go when we do meet. If a girl is meeting me on the same day after a short-set it stands to reason that she is very invested. Consequently, I am bold, I lead and I’m not afraid to state my sexual intent early. 

On instant dates, I never sit across from girls and will always sit next to them. 

On an instant date, I am not afraid to state what I want and begin a sexual conversation and link her to how she makes me feel. For example, I will explain what it was that made me speak to her, and be very forthright about my sexual intent in a calibrated and tactful way. 

I always swap Instagram and WhatsApp on the instant date and show them some aspects of my life through social media. 

On all instant dates, I explore the possibility of meeting that evening because I would prefer to get her back out later as opposed to running seduction during an afternoon instant date. If she is available and seems open to meeting I will make sure that I have grounded the instant date and present myself as a normal, interesting and trustworthy man in the latter stages of the instant date and cool off on any verbal and physical components. 

While on an instant date, it is not uncommon to hear that girls can’t stay long because they have some ‘things they need to do’ meaning that most instant dates are limited in scope. Where this doesn’t apply, I simply treat them like an evening date and act accordingly. 

On the date, I will not shy away from being open and honest about my intentions and stating these to her. I do not hide behind double-meaning or nice-guy ambivalence. In other words, I take risks and put my cards on the table very directly. 

BroodingSea, June 2023