Masculine Essence

The first thing to say is that this post is merely an alternative stance to some of the recent views from James Tusk and Troy Francis on Twitter and YouTube making the rounds this week. I know Troy and James but as men we won’t agree on everything. So I will get straight to the point and address the thrust of my post – what is masculinity. To address this question we must first zoom out and track back in time a bit and make ourselves aware of the manosphere’s bad habit of presenting arguments in Straw Men fashion, or reducing them to binary simplicity and forming absolute arguments from end-member states. I write about this in my book Daygame – an advanced guide – where I tackle head-on the ideas of Krauser and Torero who tended to use heuristics and binaries to illustrate the point (e.g. alpha v beta, lover v provider, sigma v alpha, r/K etc). The issues are almost always boiled down to a Zero Sum Game situation where if you weren’t [one] you were the [other] and therefore either fuckable or unfuckable. It has led to a generation of men polarising themselves towards trope and recurrent theme positions losing all semblance of authenticity in the process.

Binaries and heuristics

Binaries and simple heuristics are presented as sophisticated thought processes and obscure the reality of life. They are popular because they look good in a tweet or a YouTube video whereas the reality, often does not.

The Tate Brothers ushered in a new wave of this nonsense which reached its peak across 2022 and has maintained some popularity and online hype despite their arrest. More recently, as Andrew Tate awaits trial, he has been forced to repackage his brand of ‘masculinity’ and the extreme Red Pill tropes that drove both his viral appeal and mainstream public contempt (even being vilified by many UK and European politicians). The reasons for this are obvious and are political as well as expedient. In the wake of Tate’s arrest and his gradual demise, we have seen a softening of his position and another reinvention as he makes himself out to be a ‘good person’ and one that ‘seeks to simply help people improve their lives’. Of course, those of us who have watched the Tate Brothers from afar and over time, have always seen them for what they are: two very capable and intelligent opportunists at best or outright grifters and con-artists at worst.

Following in the wake of the Tate explosion implosion we witnessed a number of Red Pill Gurus and now Daygame coaches rush in to fill the void and adopt softer variants of the extreme positions; in other words a ‘Tate-Light’ version that cherry picks some aspects and repackages it into a more tolerable message with broader appeal to the masses.

One of these is the subject of masculinity. Watching Troy and Tusk’s videos of late I initially thought their views were parody, but as the week has progressed, I realised they are deadly serious and their message is yet another heuristic cliche soused in the receding floodwaters of Andrew Tate.

In this rendition, masculinity is reduced to a steroid abuser who decides to go whoring in Vegas. It is deemed to be mutually exclusive with male responsibility or the ability to build a home with a woman he loves. Smart readers will spot the nod to the intellectual malaise of Tate-Light thinking and more heuristic binary simplicity. I know several guys who have used Trenbolone and without question each of them were not only incapable of home-making, but with even less desire to purchase curtains for their rented shithole property, and even less ability to meet a high-value woman and have her stick around long enough because she would see through the superficial and caricatured illusion of masculinity he presented to her via his steroid abuse.

Recent Troy/Tusk videos have elaborated on this theme in more detail and bro-scienced the idea of TRT as the critical foundation and panacea that underpins masculine expression. I am not denying that testosterone is important, but inferring that the principal reason a man in his 20s is not getting laid can be neatly attributed to a low test score is both disingenuous and dangerous. Low testosterone is an issue for some men but their tepid desire to go whoring in Vegas in all likelihood is couched in more grown up reasons for the hard pass. I should also add that the overwhelming majority of young men in their 20s have zero issues with low testosterone levels (ironically, unless they have been doing steroids).

Tusk stated in one video that he was pinning 250mg of Sustanon each week as part of his TRT. He did this for a year. I was staggered to hear this knowing full well that this is an anabolic level of therapy (250mg per month would be enough to bring your testosterone back to elevated but within the normal range levels. 250mg per week takes you well into bodybuilding territory and will shut your natural testosterone production down hard. As Tusk himself stated, he felt shit when he came off it after 12 months and what he was simply describing was the after effects of an abnormally long steroid cycle and the impact of negligible levels of natural testosterone being produced in his testes. Thus, the crash. As a man in his 40s I would recommend all men in their 40s get their bloods checked on the NHS or go private and take the advice from the professionals, and not the internet.

More binaries

In the tweet below the same rhetorical device is used. A simple either/or. They want you in servitude. The matrix wants to control you. So come with us and fuck some whores instead, be masculine.

Both Tusk and Troy know full well that most women and men in advanced societies (think Poland, the Baltics, the Balkans, Russia etc) do want to settle down and start families and develop meaningful, lasting relationships. Most of these girls will not do it with some jacked skinhead full of tren. Sure, clubs are full of dangerous looking dudes with hot looking women but this just reinforces the idiocy of binaries and tiny data sets. This is another end-member state (clubs generally attract a small number of dumb, vapid whores obsessed with Instagram lifestyle surrounded by steroid-addled, weekend coke-head low IQ males). By taking a snapshot of these people and aspiring to emulate the behaviour and arguing that it is representative of success is pure comedy, in my opinion.

The logical thrust is that you should be high-T and learn to fight and look like you can protect her by being capable of using violence. It’s primary school evo psych and is falsified by the evidence in every European city and every university campus where attractive young women are dating regular, unthreatening young men. This element of their message is frankly nonsense (and this is me putting it diplomatically). What you see in a club is not what underpins female or male behaviour in the real world.

What is masculine, but much less YouTube friendly, is the fact there is something so infinitely smart about buying property when you are young, paying as much off as you can and having a significant appreciating asset as well as a home. Masculinity is underpinned by responsibility and future proofing. It is not underpinned by a bastardised style of John Anthony or Modern Life Dating Dating existence built on Fucking whores in Vegas, or resorting to infantile definitions of masculinity predicated on taking steroids and looking like a hard cunt in a club to facilitate your desire to get laid via a quick fix. This is not most men (thankfully) and it is not what most women want (also thankfully). So if you’re reading this choose your advice wisely.

Whores

This leads us neatly into more derangement where a further layer of confusion is slapped onto the masculinity definition via the idea that using whores is in fact synonymous with masculine behaviour. I won’t go into much detail on this other than to say if you are capable of meeting and sleeping with attractive young women you should be able to get sex for free. Also, my book costs less than the price of a whore (so I have been told) and it represents a far more useful investment in yourself in the long run.

This theme is merged with adolescent/tired tropes of masculine archetypes reinforcing the either/or binaries (fuckable v unfuckable) that pays no respect to what goes on in the real world where normal people date normal people. I have said it a thousand times before that real world evidence illustrates the position that nice young ladies only date nice young men full of trenbelone in every city the world over. The overwhelming majority of these men are just normal dudes with regular interests who date within their age cohort. The overwhelming majority of these young women date these men because they are all full of tren and carry James Bond vibe normal and nice to be around and are in the same age cohort. The world keeps turning despite the hypergamy wank fantasies that dominate the Red Pill/Daygame/Manosphere.

The irony of the next tweet appears to be lost on Troy who has made a habit over the last week of offering a lot of advice that I feel is harmful, cliched and without basis. Again, this is my opinion and many people will disagree with my opinion but I won’t take offence for that alternate stance just as I am not intending to cause ructions or offence with my different opinion to these topics. For the most part their contributions are both useful and entertaining but as I said at the beginning of the post we won’t agree on everything.

Why am I writing this post? It’s obvious, really. Because as we get good at daygame we tend to forget that there are many hundreds of guys out there battling all manner of insecurities and challenges and dealing with all sorts of issues, often alone and in fear, as they skirt the fringes of the Black Pill. It is these men who are most open to the quick fix of cheap notions of masculinity and the Tate Lifestyle. As I write posts like this one I am sometimes guilty of failing to recognise this and offer some support and guidance that a sustainable pathway to success is the less glamorous one. In some respects I have been part of the problem but I am also part of the solution. I am aware that fast paced rapid lays with girls I have met on the same day is not necessarily illustrative of most women. Having had around 8 SDLs this year I’m fully aware that this is not illustrative of a woman’s behaviour in the broader sense.

I will finish off with a totally unrelated tweet from Pat Stedman that was coincidentally buttressed against the above tweet in my Twitter news feed. Pat is someone who I respect and offers real value in almost everything he says. While the advice may lack the cocaine-hit of the Tates and the Troys and Tusks of this space, he is worth listening to and in the case of the simple message below, he is absolutely correct.

BroodingSea, July 2023