Daygame for older guys

1. The Age Event Horizon.

When it comes to daygame for older men, the first thing to say straight off the bat is that you’re operating in a different world to even a normie looking dude in his 20s and early 30s. Furthermore, you’re operating in a different solar system to a game-aware (even an average daygamer following a process based model like London Daygame) who is reasonably well put together and in his 20s or early 30s. Now to add insult to injury, imagine a good looking guy in his 20s/early 30s with some daygame skills. Yes. There are hierarchies in play. Having coached younger guys who are half-decent looking, well-dressed and with a bare modicum of Game skill, I have seen the reality – girls make their lives so much easier in set and they get results in spite of any purported (or lack thereof) ‘daygame skill’. I have seen this countless times. I recently guest-coached with a well-known coach in Warsaw and I saw this played out with two clients just as I have seen it played out on scores of occasions previously. The reality is that the younger you are, the easier it is. The older you are, the more rejection you will face. We see the emergence of dodgy, charlatan coaches in their 20s who may claim otherwise, but it is just thick cunt arrogance and ignorance at best and downright lying at worst – a blatant attempt to snake oil the idea that what they offer is teachable and repeatable irrespective of your age. I have lived on both sides of this fence and I can see bullshit when I see it. Daygame will be harder for you as an older guy.

But…

Now this may feel like a punch in the balls. But don’t despair. Daygame for the older guy does work. Just look at my success and the success of others. I’ve seen it work for older guys I’ve taught daygame to. So what advice can I offer on this matter?

2. Aim to generate the micro-date: part one. Intrigue.

Now it goes without saying that slippery terms and mantras such as approach with confidence and authenticity exist. I should know because I preach it ad nauseum. For the older guy, confidence is key, but it must be fused with authenticity from the get go. The main advantage that older men (should) have over younger guys is his life experience. It is critical that some of this is presented front and centre during the set. Convey more of you. Get her interested in you. Experience and wisdom can often wet the knickers of younger girls bored with one dimensional guys in their 20s. Use your maturity as an advantage but be interesting with it. When I coach daygame I always empase the importance of the female emotional state – Intrigue. Women are hard-wired to be intrigued and attracted to men who convey the essence of wisdom, experience, and stability.

3. Lambo driver or skateboard rider.

Fashion choices. This is admittedly a difficult one. Do you dress like a lambo owner in your chinos and Gucci wanker slippers behind a pair of Ray-Ban shades with a pink blazer slung over your crisp, white shirt? Yes. If this works for you and builds your self-belief. Emphatically so. But equally, don’t be afraid of trying to fit into a younger demographic if this is open to you. The second of these approaches should of course be supported by the opinion of other guys you trust to ensure there is some cognisant matching between you and the style.

4. Aim to generate the micro-date: part two. Don’t think like a one dimensional daygamer.

If you’re a guy in your late 30s to 50s don’t just hit the normie daygame stomping grounds of shopping centres and thoroughfares like Oxford Street, Nowy Swiat or Knez Mihalova. Choose the right venues: older men are more suited to unearthing success in environments where younger men might not go, such as art galleries, upscale cafes and bookstores, or during daytime cultural events. These settings can provide a more relaxed atmosphere for conversation and usually attract very interesting women in their own right who are predisposed to extended sets in more unique settings – again – micro date philosophy – less sets + more quality sets > volume approaching. The underlying stratagem for older men should be on good quality sets rather than the quantity of approaches (there are exceptions to this for sure and dual strategies to employ).

5. Flattering the ageing curve:

There are reams of advice out there on the web and I again review this in my book, but seriously think about looksmaxxing – botox, gym, TRT if medically warranted and any other leveraging factors eg even young daygamers like Roywalkerpua had several hair transplants. Krauser and Bodi did the same. Invest in things that flatten the ageing curve – thin quick wins – hair and beard dye – the list goes on. If in doubt speak to a coach who has worked with older guys and who can offer grown up advice on the matter.

6. Use Your Experience:

As an older guy, hopefully you have generated some interesting experiences that can be relayed via anecdotes, that relay character, value and intrigue. List these down and rote learn them. Learn how to deliver them verbally in a clear and interesting way. All of this – your life experience – will give you unique conversation topics and insights. Share stories from your travels, career, or hobbies in a way that’s engaging, not just to impress but to connect. This can make interactions more meaningful and memorable. This isn’t some coffee morning mentality – it is rooted in an understanding that women’s attraction triggers are often far more nuanced and complex than ours. Think Richard Dawkins delivering seminars – high quality women are often strongly attracted to intelligence and experience.


7. Daygame Coaching:

Time is your deprecating asset. If you’re older, think long and hard about how you use this asset. Do you want to throw shit at a wall for two years before you admit your results weren’t all that? Good coaching can install the correct behaviours, mindset and advice and prevent vectoring into the dead zone – especially important when time isn’t on your side.

8. SEO your Intrigue

It is critical that you take a short, medium and long term view to this. Develop your Instagram that showcases your character, hobbies and interests. Instagram is great for developing leads post-set – and as an older man you will often find it can take some time to develop your leads to dates as most of the girls you’re going for aren’t the usual daygame fodder that guys in their 20s and early 30s are pulling (lost tourists, rock chicks and bored skanks). Look at this as a project and a tool. As an older guy you need to present yourself as a quality option – so it stands to reason that you need to think about presenting yourself as a quality option after the set has ended. It also stands to reason that we need to maximise our appeal in the social media domains that modern women operate in today.

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BroodingSea, December 2024