A bit of context
The daygame stop is perhaps the most technical aspect of the whole daygame interaction, and the only part of the experience where I “do” or attempt to replicate, a repeated sequence of stages in each and every situation, whether on the street or in the shopping centre. The daygame stop has gone through several iterations: Think Yad. Think the running arc and placating outstretched hand of Torero. Think the energy inefficient pantomime display of Krauser. Think the generic “front stop” where you cut in and around and end up face-on, all the way to a literal interpretation of a “front stop” where the daygamer opens a girl, staring at her, as they walk towards one another. Or more worryingly, the rear open, opening her from behind and starting your conversation with the back of her head. Think newbie with bad timing. We’ve all done it.
The Brooding Sea 9am to 11am or 3pm to 1am Variant.
Shall I blow my own trumpet for a bit? Sure. Why not. I’ve long had a reputation as the best daygamer out there and the best daygame coach in the business today. The overwhelming majority of the guys I’ve coached daygaming find what I offer to be new, original and refreshing – I don’t copy and paste London Daygame and it’s trinkets – r/K etc. I cut away all the Gen 1 nonsense and try and offer clean, easily understood advice and best practise which works. So here is my basic ethos for coaching guys when it comes to opening girls.
The basics
Of course, the best way to execute a daygame stop involves a combination of confidence, respect and strategic interaction – think of the daygame experience in that first one second as a neutral energy situation. Your job is elevate the energy into a positive Green Zone and enhance normality and trust as quickly as possible – while reducing transgressions into the Red zone – fear, shock, anxiety or embarrassment. It is critical from the second you open to the time it takes you deliver the open, to elevate this green zone. So here’s a breakdown based on various insights I’ve gained over the years:
1. Forget the 3-second rule. If you have approach anxiety, fix this. Replace this with a more functioning mindset – self-belief and excitement. This is a core message I deliver throughout my coaching and the heart of my own behaviour. Choose where you open wisely. Wait for the opportune moment. Select the gaps in traffic, or away from seated outside tables or parting eyes behind the windows of restaurants. Limited her spotlight effect. Not yours.
2. Eye Contact: Your approach must be composed of good eye contact, confident demeanour, and a simple, easily understood verbal opening.
The Brooding Sea Open
The open must begin either in the 9am (if you’re approaching from her left side) or the 3pm if it’s on the right. At that exact timing begin your opening and delivery it by the time you’ve reached 11am or 1pm.
9am – excuse me
10am – I had to tell
11am – you something
3. Begin the transition into conversation. Standing off-centre is way more natural, less mandatory and “insecure”. Hold the girl with your gaze and deliver the opening clearly and cleanly. This method makes the interaction feel more natural and less invasive. When you do stop her, your body language should communicate that you are not blocking her path but inviting her into a conversation. Forget the notion of ‘inviting the blowout’. Use your eyes and adjust your position to half an arms length away from her. It is the bedrock of the physical positioning that allows assumed familiarity to take hold. Daygamers are easy to spot. Formulaic, face-on positions at arms length away*. It is stilted, clearly unnatural and belies a lack of confidence. It feeds the Red Zone. Take it from me, my system leads to far more natural and authentic looking conversations between two people who know each other, as opposed to interview styled Gen 1 daygame methodologies.
Summary
I don’t want to lose the remit of this post, which was to illustrate in simple terms exactly what I do and what I coach – and what has worked for my students I have taught daygame to. But suffice to say, after you have stopped the girl and delivered your opener – try and make sure you come across as
sincere and complimentary, focusing on something specific about her, like her style or a unique trait. This shows you’ve paid attention to her as an individual, which can flatter and intrigue her. Avoid generic or overly rehearsed lines which, given the mainstream nature of daygame in many European cities now will come across as inauthentic, formulaic, wearisome and repetitive. This is where you create your blowouts and eye-rolling. Remember, this is about Green Zone energy – after stopping her, transition quickly into a light conversation by making a novel statement, or making observations about the environment you both find yourself in, or something that genuinely resonated about her (where you can). This keeps the interaction flowing and reduces any awkwardness.
*Advanced Daygame
Navigating the emotional domains via my use of space: I always pay attention to her reactions and often move around in set – subtle but telling movements that can convey a great deal. I often adjust my body position, sometimes standing next to the girl – before breaking eye contact and facing her direction, before rotating back to face her, very close and then delivering a conversation piece or statement as I look deep into her eyes. I will then lower the sexual energy and drop back into a 9-11 or 3-1 position. My use of space and my positioning is a very important means to non-verbally adjust the energy levers which wax and wane while in-set. I use this method judiciously at different times.
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BroodingSea, December 2024
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