Another Daygame Journey Post

The problem with the concept of the journey, is that it means so many different things to different people. In its most milquetoast form, it barely even consists of a plan, much less a strategy and even less of a goal. For others, it is less of an adventure, and more of an itinerary to the Mecca’s of Oxford Street, Warsaw and Belgrade. For others, it is a pilgrimage with bouts of ‘constitutionals’ represented as ‘jaunts’ – vagabondage meets transmigration.

I could go on with all manner of permutations on this theme. But ultimately, it is usually about getting laid in its most basic form, forming mini/meaningful relationships at another more complex level, while the pretension of Nirvana is often positioned by apparatchiks, stooges and apostles with sectarain glee – that the ‘final awakening’, peace and serenity, will be reached when…wait for it…you settle down into Blue Pill Normy life in the suburbs with a wife.

The latter concept of marriage deserves its own treatment, but it is suffice to say that in my experience most men I have met who got married after a period of independent living are invariably guilty of turning into crabs in barrels and seek to pull others down with them (we all float down here). The origins of this are easy to spot particularly in more time-served daygamers who are thinking of ‘leaving the game’ to settle down. In an online context, especially on X, this mentality manifests as people undermining or hindering the progress of others who are perceived as being successful or achieving more. You can spot it a mile off and it’s always rooted in feelings of envy and jealousy (missing out), low self-esteem, or a desire to prevent others from excelling. Think of guys who used to post +1s but now don’t and have slowly and irrevocably begun their daygame journey ‘out’ amid fanfare and the obvious signs of regret and lecture and attack anyone who does shine the torch with their ad hominem attacks based on a remedial understanding of concepts such as ‘narcissistic supply’.

In a slightly more ratiocinative way, they will also point to the idea that ‘family and kids’ is again an echelon goal and they parade this aim with a puritan glee, but anyone who knows anything about life and has met enough married men (or divorced men for that matter), will smile at their veiled attempt to pull the wool as they try to lead others into blackmailing themselves, or by living with two different cognitions independently of one another. There are few things more amusing than watching former Online Gamesters who once lived and breathed Red Pill axioms on one hand, mutate into Blue Pill acolytes with the passage of time. Let’s examine this below:

Red Pill Starting Premise – Marriage is a bad idea for men and a raw deal on a long enough timeline. (“never getting married.”)

Justify the cognition, by changing the conflicting cognition (“Marriage is good because society needs strong family units and I want more meaning in my life.”)

Justify the cognition by adding new cognitions (“I’ll maintain a strong male frame and display dominance and Alpha Sigma behaviour across the marriage.”)

Ignore or deny information that conflicts with existing STARTING beliefs (see Red Pill Starting Premise, above) (“Marriage is not a lose-lose for men.”)

Anyway, I am not going down that rabbit hole any further. Suffice to say it does amuse me when I see these reframes online (and there are many of them).

So what does, or should, a daygame journey look like?

This is the Million Dollar Question. I’m not stupid enough to prescribe what yours should look like. I can however list some traits, behaviours and lifestyle choices from men who have been married and no longer are and weave this into a crude form of answer that will be purposefully vague for several good reasons.

1. Develop interests and passions outside of women. Have something to look forward to next week, and just as importantly, later in life.
2. Daygame is a beautiful skill to attach to travel. Don’t miss out on the latter – especially if you’re travelling (think about what I’m saying here).
3. Get as good as you can get at it, that means taking feedback from people who understand it and get to that point ASAP. Time is an asset.
4. Don’t get caught up in excogitation. Practically everything worthy about daygame was written by Krauser and there have been only a handful of notable additions to his work since that have updated the ideas for a mainstream daygame culture of today.
5. Do everything from a place of enjoyment.
6. Do everything from a place of excitement (whether that’s travelling to a new city, walking down your local street, going on a date, getting married etc).
7. If you seek marriage as a means to convince yourself you’re starting ‘the next stage’ of your life – then you’ve fell for the ruse. A guy in his 30s or 40s who attaches emotions of oppression and burden to himself is truly a slave to false expectation – yet this is invariably one of the main themes I see driving men toward marriage today. Go back to point 1, above.
8. Daygame doesn’t need an end-point – think of it as a painting – a work of art. Just enjoy it for the moment it captures. Once the painting is complete (you may not even finish it – but you’ll get the picture). It doesn’t need a utility. Again, go back to point 1 above
9. Daygamers often go through periods of excitement and fatigue. This is ok and normal. Go back to point 1 above.
10. Keep doing what makes you happy as long as you can.

BroodingSea, April 2005