Back from 3 weeks abroad

As is usually the case after an extended trip like this, I feel exhausted and crave the peace of home. I was in Poland, before heading to Turkey, then home for a week, then back away for three weeks to Turkey and Poland again. There was a mixture of coaching and drinking but mainly just taking each day as it comes.

Some highlights included:

1. Meeting a really hot Colombian model on an internal flight in Turkey. She seems really keen. We’re meeting in September. Such is the importance of being game aware with the ability to make an impression even in the most unlikely of situations. Always be closing.
2. Meeting an Iranian fitness model who seems to be in love with me. She’s moving to Amsterdam next month. Basically next door to me.
3. Meeting a Turkish girl over a situational opener who was just perfect. But as is the case with hotter Turkish girls, the timing rarely is.
4. An SDL with a 21 year old Ukrainian
5. A +1 with a hot tiny brunette 20 year old Polish girl
6. Another +1 with anogher very cute 20 year old Polish dancer/med student. She’s really nice and I’ll see her again.
7. A developing, but at times frustrating and intermittent connection with one of the most beautiful but challenging women I’ve ever seen. Probable 10 this one. She would be at home against any woman on the planet in the looks and body department.

Some success here, for sure. Despite all of this, I didn’t do a vast amount of Game. I spent quite a bit of time with friends, one of which went through a similar break up as me, both of us foolishly not acting on the Red Flags long before we did. Such is love.

I met up with Nick Krauser today for a few hours and it was a good chat as usual. Not seen him since our joint daygame coaching in April. Walking around town convinced me of the need to get back out on home soil. Nothing is stopping me but excuses. Couple of hours here and there is all it takes.

I’ve got some ideas to write about and some daygame coaching advice to put down on the website, but for now I just see this post as a tepid diary piece as much for my own reflection as anything else. I’m travelled out, that’s the truth of it. I’ve come to appreciate the break – both Nick and I agreed on this today. The chance to get home and appreciate simple surroundings, no inclination to go out and approach, no desire for that Tuesday 11am beer. Just mundane normality. But like anything we get bored with this eventually, and off we go again.

I’m flying for coaching in 2 weeks and on this note, if anyone does want to reach out for daygame coaching you have until October 10th before I down tools and fly off to South America for the winter (initially Mexico and Colombia). Ah ok, here’s a piece to consider below.

Game or game

I’m a fierce critic of myself as well as others. I recently posted on X the idea that many guys are simply young, good looking sorts who do enough normality delivery, which, when mixed with looks + not fucking up, leads to dates and lays. The Game Purists among us quite rightly flare our nostrils and say there’s no game going on there. But if it gets results it gets results, fair play on them. My only parting caveat is that this currency gets spent exponentially quicker with each passing year, meaning of course your Game must make at least the same incrementally positive weighted increase to make up for the negatively weighted decrease in your SMV. It’s all fine and well until you wake up one day to eventually realise that this falls apart once the normality delivery + youthful enough appearance deteriorates to below a level that game (with a lower case g) is capable of supporting (it’s not enough to simply not fuck up anymore). In the end, you’re just another boring-ish guy who’d she’d have fucked a few years back when you looked 29. Now, you just remind her of her university psychology lecturer, or, and just as bad, her daddy with a lower case d. At this point, the only men who succeed are the ones who made it across the Event Horizon and back out again. The only men who succeed in this ecology are the ones who pull the levers of emotional attraction on multiple levels, and even then, the cards are still rigged against you. But game with a G helps, mark my words.

To learn daygame with me, the only guy out there in his 40s who is meeting women on the street and getting results with them consistently, get in touch with me on Telegram @broodingsea, where you can speak with several guys I’ve coached – don’t just take my word for it.

Brooding sea, July 2025