How to get ahead in daygame

• Before you seek coaching, ask yourself some honest questions. Be aware that holding a conversation with a woman on the street is not some cheat code to sex. Stacking on some quirky appearance/walk/vibe etc does not obligate the woman to lend you her pussy. Uncomfortable Truth – you still need to approach women who reside in the same genetic solar-system as you in terms of looks and overall aesthetic. This is not universally true, however, just as much as people who jump off tall buildings don’t always die.
• Understand that good PUAs combine decent SMV and good charisma. Understand also that good SMV or good charisma is unlikely in of-itself to make you a good PUA. Think carefully what I am saying here. Charisma and presence is the x-factor that is very much rooted in your past – it is the sum of your experiences – your true-self – not the sham idea of ‘fake it until you make it’. Work out what this is and who you are.
• Don’t make the mistake of thinking that good looking guys only get girls because they are good looking because these good looking guys are often chasing the elite end of the female spectrum. Don’t get jealous – learn, emulate and develop yourself.
• A street approach is simply a vehicle to efficiently transport good body language, aesthetic, value and interesting personality through a woman’s interpretational safeguarding firewall – in other words do you cross the threshold of intrigue, trust and attraction. You have a few minutes to bridge these gaps but the real challenge begins after the street approach and it pays to understand that good sets often lead nowhere despite acquiring Instagram and WhatsApp details.
• If you’re out of shape get in shape. Do not brush over or sidestep the hard reality. Women are attracted to good bodies. All women fucking love guns and shoulders. Work on them. Besides looking aesthetically attractive, it shows discipline and motivation. You don’t need to go overboard and start juicing cycles. But you do need to improve your physical appearance. I have lost count of the daft cunt Twitter PUAs with 20%+ body fat (in their 20s – so no fucking excuse for the gluttony) lecture grown men with their complex SMV scales while laying and down “the rules” about what is doable and believable. It isn’t rocket science to state that fat cunts aren’t generally desired by women. If you’re a fat cunt in your 20s you have some major questions to ask yourself, and major sacrifices to make.
• Understand that game/daygame is not needed for the vast majority of men, especially those in their 20s. 90% of women date within their age cohort which is +5/-2 years, give or take. So it should come as no surprise to see that there is nothing special (and certainly not fucking game) for a 20-something man who thinks he’s a male 7 dating women women in their 20s who fall into the ‘nice but nothing special’ category. This is a basic, dyed-in-the-wool Law of Male and Female Interaction. Take a look around you and ask yourself what is stopping you. The answers are generally a lot less sophisticated than it seems and simply involve widening your social circle. For men in 30s and 40s the prescription is more complex.
• Shit fashion? Go out and get some advice and improve it. Regularly update your fashion – not necessarily by aping contemporary trends but simply refreshing clothes you know work for you. I regularly buy several t-shirts, jeans etc of a type I feel good in. Not only do you look better, but you feel better – it contributes to your sense of innate value. Try it and see.

• No hair? Shave it, get a transplant or SMP. Use good moisturisers and groom. This all contributes to your sense of innate value and will contribute to your confidence.
• Understand that the sooner you lose the daygame framework, the better. I still rate Nick Krauser’s Nitro over Mastery. It is more actionable and ‘lived-in’. As a technical piece of work, Mastery is impressive but it has no place in a beginner/intermediate daygamers library. Stick with Nitro, use this to shed some light on the ecology you will be adapting into. Use Mastery if/when you simply want to explore detailed nuances and theory for the sake of the art, preferably with a malt whisky. The importance of chopping down the support framework is critical – and do this early, too. Ultimately, all you need to do is to open, set intent, develop some trust and intrigue and then close. Do not think however that this is capturing the essence – these are quantitative measures for a subjective emotional experience. Binaries. System and disorder.
• Male/female interaction, in the cold light of day, with no alcohol is a liberating experience for a man but a potentially frightening one for the woman. For a few seconds it’s the same as what a cat and a dog must feel in a small locked room. You’re responsible for stretching a rarely-used social muscle with a stranger in a potentially unusual circumstance. You are doing this via conversation – an everyday romantically-geared conversation that waxes and wains across these measurables as intended by the model. Done well, the relationships that ensue are more powerful and meaningful than in any other context.
• For fucks sake – do not spam. Do not think you need to do X number of sets per day/month to learn. Do you think a senior sales professional needs to burn through pipeline at a rate of knots to drive his performance? Is a book better just because it has 5000 words instead of 500? You aim is to seek authenticity in all of your interactions (easier said than done, admittedly). We are challenged to pique and generate emotional responses in the woman, not to check off quantitative stages (the London daygame model) as a man.
• Learn to open properly. Wait, if needs be. If this means your approach anxiety grows and swells in the pit of your stomach and your hands tremble and your voice waivers, then fucking deal with it. Be a man and manage these feelings. The sooner you learn to not give a fuck about nerves, the better. At the same time, remember that you are appearing in front of a girl going about her day. Stop her with tact and in a low-impact setting where her nerves will not be amplified (spotlight effect can be crippling – for her). So choose a low-energy setting, that can afford you both some space. If it means waiting then do so. Learn to love the nerves and smile at the little pussy-arsed trepidation you feel.
• Remember that builder you walked past today? You know, the fat cunt eating the sausage roll? Yes, him. Your eyes momentarily locked. Congratulations daft cunt. You just got IOId of a bloke. My point is that IOIs can be overstated. I regularly experience fleeting eye contact with people as we walk passively along the street. For me, an IOI, a genuine IOI is a relatively rare thing and is marked by a supporting behaviour e.g. smile, looks back etc. Yes of course, some girls are really subtle (e.g. the Dutch girl I slept with last month and the Greek girl near-miss last night admitted they ‘noticed me’. But the majority of women you locked eyes with for a split second as you walked along the high-street are not sending subtle come-get-me signs. Yes, if you’re a genuinely good looking guy (think Jabba back in the day) you will get women checking you out. A good-looking guy who becomes self-aware of this can in many cases work this in his favour, but the majority of us cannot. Try it yourself. Try holding eye-contact and smiling. Gauge the reaction. But don’t read too much into what happens next.

Just some thoughts.

BroodingSea, May 2021