Daygame: units of measurement

The following piece is geared toward intermediate to advanced daygamers and may be of special relevance to those men who game principally without wings or in groups (thus lack the immediate support network to pump ‘state’ and ‘vibe’).

I have spent a lot of time abroad this summer doing daygame and making things happen on my own. Solo daygame of this type is a binary and you can either do it long-term, or you can’t. Sure, we can all go out and do a few hours here or there, but for extended periods it really is something that requires a particular set of personality attributes.

One thing that can arise from this sort of extended solo activity is the dark introspection of the soul. Insecurity, doubt, tiredness and boredom represent challenges that we face to differing degrees. Bolt onto these challenges a series of bad interactions, disinterested and fatigued girls, inclement weather (although this should never stop you) and you can rapidly salt away valuable time as you formulate reasons and excuses for not approaching, or when you do, you do without authenticity, confidence or belief.

Conversely, when you operate with wings, or you’re in the presence of several guys, this type of social buffer can (basically does) take off the challenges outlined above and make these obstacles easier to deal with or simply ignore, as you are propelled along with the borrowed energy and support network of wings and friends.

The point I wish to touch on today is the issue of how negative reactions feeds into apathy and how to combat this using your own data. But to do this you need a body of experience (sets) behind you and a significant number of reference experiences – and here is the rub – a history of success.

Several times this summer I began my day #1 full of beans, fresh with hope and self-confidence, only to see a gradual cloying attrition take hold as the day progressed. Ten or twelve sets and only a paltry, weak Instagram or number to show for the 20,000 steps. It is easy to look at increments of activity like this and form a narrative in your own mind (I’m unattractive, too old, the place is burnt etc). What I have learnt from these experiences is the importance of zooming out and letting your history and experience guide you through the downturn. I myself have done coming up to 2000 sets and from this body of work I have established clear patterns that for every 30/35 girls I approach I will sleep with one of them. For every 10 I approach I will get between 2/3 contact details and from these 2/3 contact details, one will be a lead I will date/sex. The overwhelming pattern is underpinned by the 30 set metric, or, My Personal Unit of Measurement. The key takeaway from this insight (in my particular case) is that if I am doing 30 sets over a 3-day period I should not be upset or frustrated if I have a bad day and salt 10 sets away with no production. I know that on day 2 or day 3 my statistics will hopefully even out and conform to the broader data pattern that sheds the real insight on my production. Time and time again I have seen this over the last year. Good days follow the bad.

This Unit of Measurement is unique to your offering, your skillset and your current state of development. Think of it as a fluid measure. It is important to establish yours and let this unit of measurement guide you through the bad times. Be honest in this regard. If you are sleeping with one girl in 100/200 approaches and obtaining one number/instagram for every 10 approaches – let this guide you through the negativity knowing that things will even out. Look back at your data and let this lead you.

It is really important for intermediate daygamers to establish their own units of measurement as this helps enormously to combat the downturns in your confidence as a consequence of a particularly bad day on the street. For those of you with a 1000 sets behind you and you have slept with 1/50 approaches you have a good body of data that not only attests to your ability, but also informs you about your future and especially the type of work rate you need to put in.

For me, this very simple reflection on my data and the patterns that have emerged from it have provided enormous encouragement and motivation to my game. I look at a bad 10-set day as nothing more than a third of my own personal unit of measurement. By doing this, it has taken away the stress, introspection and demotivation that can arise as a result of micro-analysing each interaction (whether good or bad).

This type of thinking is not about guys who still have room for qualitative and quantitative improvement (i.e. guys who are still developing their skills, who’ve not been coached or who maxed their SMV) but purely for guys with:

1. advanced skills that surpass the basic LDM framework.
2. who are at their SMV limits.

It is a meaningful way to allow the Principle of Uniformitarianism to support you moving forward, especially when you’re on your own, and an encouraging and meaningful way to improve your mindset without making rushed and poorly informed changes to your behaviour.

I touch on this theme in a recent daygame journal here https://youtu.be/F0uuxmxY2oU