On the vicissitudes of daygame

I’ve enjoyed diarising my travel experience and thoughts in video form this year. YouTube, if nothing else, serves a purpose for cloud storage of large 4k video format (until they of course come for our community in absolute terms).

I’ve found it useful to highlight the lows in some detail. It is easy for coaches to sell a narrow remit of the daygame experience in order to paint a marketable picture. Many of you have thanked me for shedding some light on the reality – which is not all great sets, dates and lays. All of this has proved useful to both you and me. But especially me, in terms of honing my skills and developing an even stronger self-belief and willingness to succeed.

October was enjoyable, but I never got a substantial body of work in play. The usual malaise from daygaming in the UK had, in some ways, carried into my interactions overseas. This outcome effect was real, and a wing and I had discussed this at length as to how negative game experience here on Tyneside carried overseas creating a hangover effect. Reflecting on this was a learning experience and it has proved valuable.

November came, and the memories of flakey leads, apathetic, entitled and bored women in Newcastle became a distant memory. The outcome effect I mentioned above had dissipated largely as a consequence of having done no game in the UK. I felt confident and assured in myself – my baseline mindset.

I have a deep sense of motivation and resilience. I know I have a very good daygame methodology and it gets me results. So I always proceed knowing, deep down, that the good times will come again.

I spent a week in Krakow where I slept with x2 23 year olds (Poland and Ukraine) and a very cute 18 year old Polish girl with a superb body. A few days after this trip while coaching in another city, I did a demonstration set for a client on a gorgeous 20 year old blonde girl (she blew him out 10 minutes earlier). Her initially strong frame and ‘bitchy’ demenour soon evaporated and this led to an SDL later in the evening (more to come on this in a later blog post).

I find it very interesting how, on reflection, this outcome effect may have impacted on my game across October (this coincided with quite a few sessions in and around Newcastle). But by November, I felt firmly back in charge of all aspects of my game – underpinned by steely confidence, coolness, strong listening and rapport building with an ability to create authentic interactions in enough cases to bring strong results.

I know that my daygame is very good. Many people I have met are extremely impressed with my results, my quality and the sophistication of my daygame philosophy. But October firmly reminded me that mindset is everything. Understanding your strengths, leveraging these, developing resilience and a love of the process are the bedrocks to navigate the bad months.

BroodingSea, November 2023